New Nature: Episode 47

There’s one piece in your Christian walk that will change EVERYTHING for you, and that’s understanding and living out of your new nature. This episode is a teaching clip that Scott recently did.

From Hurting to Healer With Michelle Madrid-Branch: Episode 44

Discover how to go from rejection and deep wounds to healing and acceptance with Michelle Madrid-Branch. If you or anyone you know has suffered any type of rejection or trauma as a child, you need to listen to this interview!

Matt Chewning Interview: Episode 39

Matt Chewning has a new TV show called #Preached where he dialogues with people about their beliefs and is the Pastor of one of the fastest growing churches in Boston. In this interview, he talks about his journey and how he stays grounded through it all.

Show Notes

After his interview with Matt Chewning, Scott was particularly impressed by two aspects of his communication skills. First was his use of scripture, including exact biblical addresses. It was not done in such a manner as to make himself sound “religious,” but as confirmation from God’s word regarding his personal thoughts on a given subject. Second was Matt’s willingness to speak with anyone about anything, anywhere. This included engaging people in settings and on subjects that we don’t usually associate with Christian dialogue.

Matt did not grow up in a Christian household. His father was Catholic and his mother was Jewish, and neither of them practiced their faith. They divorced when Matt was four and when he was recruited to play basketball at a small Christian college he had little sense of Christian doctrine. Though he was saved in college, after graduation he followed in his father’s footsteps and entered the corporate world, where he became very successful. Matt, his wife and children were living the “American Dream” when God called him to move to Boston and start a church. As you listen to Scott’s interview, you will find Matt and his down-to-earth style both likable and inspirational.

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How To Get Your Prayers Answered: Episode 38

Want God to answer your prayers? In this episode, Scott and Dina talk about the three things you can do in order to get your prayers answered!

Show Notes

Scott and Dina discuss three aspects of effective prayer which are important when we are seeking God’s favor in our lives or in the lives of others.

The first goal is to be specific in our requests. If we are asking for financial assistance, let Him know how much money we need, when we need it, and why. If it’s healing for ourselves or others, name the afflicted person(s), and identify whether we/they need physical, spiritual or emotional healing. If physical, name the affected body part or type of disease.  If we are asking for His help with a broken relationship or wisdom in a difficult decision, share the details with Him. It’s not that He doesn’t already know, but it sets the stage for Him to act by affirming that we know, and are turning to Him in faith.

The next thing worthy of our attention is that we communicate the specifics clearly. While this may sound redundant, it’s not. Too often we clutter our prayers with “Christianese.” Sometimes this comes in the form of using our chosen name for God (ie. God, Lord, Lord God, Father, Heavenly Father, Father God, etc.) to begin and end each phrase or thought. This is not how we talk to one another, nor does it add anything to our communication with God. At other times, if at a loss for words, we mimic language we’ve heard used by preachers or teachers, or we borrow phrases we’ve heard others using in their prayers. In almost every case, if it’s not how we typically express ourselves, nothing is gained in our quest for clear communication. A good guideline is to imagine you are baring your soul to your best friend. Because you are.

Finally, one of the most powerful tools in effective prayer is to tie our requests to God’s promises. The Bible is full of His promises and wisdom, covering everything from prosperity to peace and joy, and from healing to fear and sadness. Reference to any concordance reveals there is little about the nature of man that God has not addressed in His Word. Not only is the Bible a wonderful resource for prayer language, it honors God when we come to Him using scripture that He inspired. This will also prompt us to examine the nature of our request. Is it a matter that would be appropriate to lift up to God in prayer?

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How To Avoid Destroying Your Relationships: Episode 33

There is one thing that if not done right will undermine and destroy your relationships. But if you take the time and invest in this one key relationship principle, you’ll grow and strengthen your relationships.

Show Notes

Scott and Dina discuss the most important factor in preserving relationships, and that is communication. This may seem obvious. We’ve all experienced the positive and negative results that come from good and bad communication. What is not obvious are the underlying reasons that some attempts at communication are fruitful while others are less than satisfactory.

The first aspect of communication that is helpful to understand is that there are distinctly different styles, and certain combinations are very challenging. Much has been written about this area of human relations, but for purposes of this discussion we will examine three primary styles.

First are the volatile communicators. They tend to be loud and passionate. They frequently use hand gestures and you always know where they stand. This is a learned behavior and typical of certain cultures such as Italian and Middle Eastern. A side note is that passionate communicators report greater passion in other areas of their relationships.

Second are the negotiators. When conflict arises, they will thoughtfully acknowledge the other person’s point of view, and are ready to sit down and calmly discuss the matter. This will be viewed by many to be the Christian approach. There is typically less passion in their relationships.

A third distinct group are the avoiders. Their tendency is to walk away from conflict, avoiding it whenever possible. They hold onto the memories of past discomfort and resist any discussion that might lead to feeling that way again.

The reason it’s important to understand these different communication styles is that the greatest risk of destroying our relationships occurs when we fail at conflict resolution. This is when friendships are broken and marriages end in divorce. Conflict is inevitable, and how we handle it determines whether it’s going to damage or strengthen our relationships. While it might appear that the negotiators have a better grasp of conflict resolution, the fact is that none of the styles are wrong and they can all work. The key is that both parties use the same one. If they are predisposed to different styles, one or both must change. The good news is that communication styles can be chosen, and the conscious effort pays off. You can imagine the pain and frustration of a “volatile” and an “avoider” trying to work through a serious issue while stuck in their inherent styles. (Or maybe you don’t need to imagine this.) Even avoiders can negotiate as long as they feel safe and have a way out of the discussion at any given moment.

In summary, the first step is to determine what kind of communicator we are, then we identify the style of the person with whom we seek resolution. After that we either agree on the style we are both going to use or, if necessary, we accommodate the other person’s style. Finally we agree on the ground rules; what is allowed and what is not. Examples of what might not be permitted are name calling or threats. An allowed condition might be giving the other person some time and space if they ask for it. It’s as simple as that!

This is the formula for effective conflict resolution without destroying your relationships. For more helpful teachings on human (and spiritual) relations don’t miss an episode of NOTW Christian Podcast.

Surefire Way To Transform Your Day: Episode 32

You don’t have to stay in an emotional funk. There is a simple and surefire way to transform your day. It’s all about getting into a ‘Yes’ state.

Show Notes

Even the most upbeat people occasionally wake up feeling down, or some event allows anger and frustration to creep into their lives. Scott and Dina share a technique to quickly transform our perspective, restoring the peace and joy. A biblical reference that speaks to this is Psalm 42:5:

 Why are you cast down, O my soul? And why are you disquieted within me?    Hope in God, for I shall yet praise Him. For the help of His countenance.

In this verse we see the importance of realizing that something is amiss in our heart, and to seek the Lord for His assistance in the matter. An amazing tool at our disposal is “self-talk,” not to be confused with “the power of positive thinking.” The latter is limited in scope, its success being conditional on a realistic goal. Dina uses the example of her becoming an NBA basketball player through hard work and positive thinking. It’s not going to happen. Self-talk, on the other hand, is a tool to be used in the moment and, when correctly applied, always bears fruit.

Scott makes reference to the “yes” state, characterized by positive thoughts, as opposed to the “no” state where thoughts are negative. To illustrate, he asks Dina to close her eyes and reads a list of words for her to consider: yes, absolutely, awesome, fantastic, wonderful, amazing, glorious, and yes again. She relates that she is uplifted. Then he recites a list of words and phrases to elicit the opposite effect: no, absolutely not, cannot be done, impossible, boring, lame, stupid, no, and never going to happen. Dina says she felt the joy being sucked out of her and began to feel stressed. She expresses amazement because it is not in the context of anything actually going on in her life. When we begin to associate thoughts with ourselves, the world around us, or other people, they become more powerful yet. Good or bad, they affect us mentally, emotionally, spiritually and even physically. Scott and Dina think it best to repeat the first list–the “yes” words.

As Paul instructs us in Philippians 4:8:

Finally, brethren, whatever things are true, whatever things are noble, whatever things are just, whatever things are pure, whatever things are lovely, whatever things are of good report, if there is any virtue and if there is anything praiseworthy—meditate on these things.

And, of course, it always helps to remember what God has done, and continues to do, for us. His eternal blessings include dying for us, residing within us as the Holy Spirit, calling us His children, forgiving all our sins, giving us Christ’s righteousness, loving and accepting us, and much more.

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From Surviving To Thriving In Life: Episode 25

How to go from a life where you’re just surviving to a life where you’re thriving? In this episode, Scott and Dina share the three things that will cause your life to really thrive.

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Show Notes

Scott and Dina explore the three important areas we must consider to move from a life of just surviving to truly thriving.

First, we must choose whether we are going to live our lives by design or by default. Default is the way of the world and is reactionary, whereas living a life by design is a conscious decision and is proactive. Default is living as others tell us or because it’s how everyone else does it. Living by design means choosing our life and it requires sacrifice. A life by default requires sacrifice too, but it comes later on, and is imposed rather than chosen. A classic example of default is pursuit of career and material things at the expense of relationships. A life by design begins by determining/agreeing upon what’s important and then being true to those values. This requires focus and discipline but the rewards far outweigh the sacrifices.

Once we have determined the design of our lives, it’s time to get training from others who know more than us. At the same time we need to unlearn the paradigms that are undermining us and keeping us from succeeding in life. We all have them as a product of our past experiences and they are what stand in the way of living the life we want. It is here that outside counsel is so critical; not from a peer but from someone with more life experience. We are too close to the issues that hinder us to be able to see them objectively and resolve them without help. The #1 secret of highly successful people is that they seek out others to coach and mentor them. This is a universally accepted strategy that is also a biblical truth. In every aspect of life we have the opportunity to benefit from the experience of others and to integrate into our lives those qualities we most admire. The kind of training we need is determined by our chosen design.

The last topic, one that Scott calls a “cold, hard truth,” is this: “If you want a different outcome in life, you need to begin to make different choices.” A life lived by default is characterized by just surviving, hoping for our circumstances to change, or for God to do something, or for some other force to make a difference in our lives. We see ourselves as victims, and we blame our unhappiness on our spouses, parents, children, bosses, jobs, roommates, etc. It’s not their fault. “The only person responsible for you not thriving is you!” This is where choosing a design for your life changes everything. Once you’ve identified what’s important to you, then it’s time to equip yourself for success through training and mentoring. These are the first steps to fulfilling a God-sized purpose in your life. Will it be easy? No. Will there be setbacks and disappointments? Yes. Is it the only way to change your life from just surviving to truly thriving? Absolutely!

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Dating And The Bible

How do you have healthy dating relationships? What does the Bible say about dating? How do you ensure that you set your dating relationship up for success? Scott, Dina, and Ryan answer all these questions and much more in this episode.

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Overcome Guilt and Self-Condemnation

Guilt, shame, and self-condemnation can be heavy burdens that many believers carry. But the good news is that with the right perspective you can experience freedom from guilt and shame! In this episode, you’ll learn powerful truths that will help you experience grace and acceptance and overcome the burden of guilt.

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Show Notes

There are two basic mindsets when approaching God: works or grace. The works mindset, when you have made a mistake, thinks: I have failed, God is disappointed, which causes feelings of guilt and shame, then you promise God that next time you’ll try harder (which never works).
The grace mindset, when you have made a mistake, thinks: I have fallen, I still have God’s unmerited favor, which causes feelings of thankfulness, then you realize that you need help (from God and others).

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